Our lives are full of denials. Love denials, social denials, workplace denials, medical denials and many more such denials.
It is easy. It is safe. It saves us a lot of hustle. If we think life is a puppet to destiny then denial is the only string we operate. If things, situations, opinions are against us, we pull ourselves away from them, shut ourselves from their influence. Facing them might topple our world, we fear. Closing ourselves from the them, we can still hold on to our world the way it is - hypothetical, illusive, unreal but comfortable.
It is not a conscious game. Our subconscious has the control. Like a tortoise pulling itself inside the shell thinks that the danger around will vanish, we use denial as our defence from reality and hardly notice that we remain standstill while the world has moved on.
Not our fault. We have been taught to be positive, trained to think that what we want to achieve is achievable. But how long to try, is never mentioned. So more than being positive, we need to be real with a dash of positivity. Set ourselves a limit from where we need to and we should change the direction.
Denial is like a dream. A dream that has life, perfectly the way we want, with perfect people around, wholesome happiness and suitable situations. But life will be lifeless with such perfection. No one is perfect, happiness is relative to sorrow and situations are stagnant without change. If we cannot notice this, understand this difference then we might be still in a dream. We need to wake up.
The world will always be dropping hints to tell us that we have stopped moving through people around us, incidents or from within as doubts, intuitions, anger. We need to be receptive. Dwell on these negative thoughts for a while if they are reoccurring. Try to validate them and if they do, act upon them. They are various forms of fear, we need to deal with, accept our shortcomings and change accordingly to move on.
Because life is not a puppet to destiny but to our thoughts.
It is easy. It is safe. It saves us a lot of hustle. If we think life is a puppet to destiny then denial is the only string we operate. If things, situations, opinions are against us, we pull ourselves away from them, shut ourselves from their influence. Facing them might topple our world, we fear. Closing ourselves from the them, we can still hold on to our world the way it is - hypothetical, illusive, unreal but comfortable.
It is not a conscious game. Our subconscious has the control. Like a tortoise pulling itself inside the shell thinks that the danger around will vanish, we use denial as our defence from reality and hardly notice that we remain standstill while the world has moved on.
Not our fault. We have been taught to be positive, trained to think that what we want to achieve is achievable. But how long to try, is never mentioned. So more than being positive, we need to be real with a dash of positivity. Set ourselves a limit from where we need to and we should change the direction.
Denial is like a dream. A dream that has life, perfectly the way we want, with perfect people around, wholesome happiness and suitable situations. But life will be lifeless with such perfection. No one is perfect, happiness is relative to sorrow and situations are stagnant without change. If we cannot notice this, understand this difference then we might be still in a dream. We need to wake up.
The world will always be dropping hints to tell us that we have stopped moving through people around us, incidents or from within as doubts, intuitions, anger. We need to be receptive. Dwell on these negative thoughts for a while if they are reoccurring. Try to validate them and if they do, act upon them. They are various forms of fear, we need to deal with, accept our shortcomings and change accordingly to move on.
Because life is not a puppet to destiny but to our thoughts.
